Are you really in love?

Most people pay lip service to falling in love. They want the pleasure - who wouldn't?  But they don't believe it exists. Well it won't for them. Everyone has a sad tale to tale - even if it is they have never loved and enjoy nights in doing macrame and stroking their cat.

The thing that confuses me the most are the people who believe they love an individual who treats them badly. Here are some examples:

1. Being cheated on. Does anyone seriously think that is acceptable?
2. Violence.
3. Verbal abuse.
4. Contempt.

This is behaviour directly aimed at you - we are not even considering personal habits, idiosyncrasies, personality defects or other such potential deal breakers.

List the behaviour you tolerate or ignore.  Tis indeed shaming which is why so many explain it away with "true love". Of course it is not love that binds you to such a creature it is fear. Fear of what? Maybe even fear of the thought of being on your own. At this stage you won't even like yourself. How could you when you allow another to treat you with a lack of respect?

So if you think you are unworthy then you are not going to risk venturing into the big, bad world and coming across a new soul as you will assume all will treat you with the disdain you deserve.

What about this thought - Men do not like to finish with women, it goes against their protective instinct so instead they behave in such a way to encourage the woman to finish with them. This can happen on an increasing scale and the frustration for both parties is that a lot of women simply choose to become more and more of a doormat. The woman is in a state of disbelief - why is he behaving like this - he used to be soo loving, she then resorts to futile hope and has an imaginary relationship in her head. With her and the original or remodelled beau. When he stops cheating everything will be fine. No it won't. It is never going to happen.

You cannot break free from an abusive, damaging, boring, washed up, dead relationship until you work on yourself.

There are lots of tools. Cynics can reject but the first step is to change your behaviour. How?

Change your words. Change your thoughts.. Change your beliefs. Change your behaviour. Change your life. 

Positive affirmations work with repetition.

Here are a couple to try 100 times a day every day.

I can do anything I set my mind to.

I am beautiful.

Here's another good idea:

10 squats and 10 lunges twice a day - but that is the subject of another post...

If you need help with any of this call me...

What Kind of Man Do You Like?

Have you decided?

You want a man in your life.  Is that it? Just any man? Of course not.

How about you make a list of what exactly you are looking for?

Bet it won't say married man.  How come so many women end up dating them? I saw The Other Woman recently starring Cameron Diaz and the film variously annoyed and entertained me. He was such a cad but he only managed to get away with it because the women were soo stupid.

So, a start would be list of deal breakers.  For many women it is a minimum height - strange that even the most petite among us can be heightist against men - but that is a bit like tubby men rejecting chubby women - there is no logic to it.

OK, so provided your deal breaker list is not so long that you decide to give up on an impossible task, the next list is what you are looking for. This should not be a chore it should be a pleasure - to write about your dream man. If you can't be bothered what does that say - maybe you don't want a man in your life?

What is the point of doing this? It narrows the field. There are billions of men out there. If you don't focus you will get lost in the crowd. Imagine a herd of zebras. You have to pick one. How will you do it?

How women normally date is they are responsive to the men who approach them. Not only does this take the choice right out of your hands but you could become prey to the players - they are more likely to ask women out, the ones who only want sex so any gal will do, the over confident ones and the ones who have asked you out for a bet (It does happen!).

I have read a few dating help guides and they are a nightmare.  They are telling women to act in a certain way, look a certain way (although they all state looks do not matter) have sex at a certain time, don't be needy, be fun, be mysterious, be strong, be confident.

Here is my advice. Just be. If a man does not like you as you are then you need to find out as quickly as possible otherwise you are wasting your precious life on a wrong un - wrong for you that is.

Next focus on what you like. I hate football so I will not be going to a football match. I hate golf. Not keen on tennis. Hate fishing. Get my drift. So many women abandon their interests and follow a man. Do you know what will happen?  You will get bored. Then you will go off him and blame him for being boring.

I love shopping - so no Amish for me. What do you like to do with your time? Write it down. If you meet a guy and you have no overlapping interests then you are going to have to spend a lot of time in bed which is great but you may miss shopping.

Finally there is only one essential element for true love - fantastic chemistry. Strangely, I have never felt this for a guy who loves fishing. If you feel it - follow it.

The Little Book of Love

The Little Book of Love is available now on amazon

This book is to help women deal with their anxiety around romantic love. If you have to ask - does he love me? The answer is probably no. This book is to give women inspiration and help them deal with the enigma of love. Love of course begins with self love and capturing this can feel like chasing bubbles if you do not have the necessary beliefs in place. You are a prize worth winning. Do you believe that? This book will help.

Most of the suffering women endure in pursuit of romantic love could be avoided if they listened to their intuition. If something does not feel right there is a reason - and it is not that you are not good enough. Give yourself a break and read this book. Work out that you are worth a whole lot more than you are putting up with. Become a vessel for love and start to attract the right people into your life - end your dance with players and users and open the door to a freer, simpler life where everything flows. It begins and ends with you. 

The Book is divided into 5 sections:

MEN TO AVOID

DOES HE LOVE ME?

DO YOU LOVE YOURSELF?

WHAT IS LOVE?

WHEN A MAN LOVES A WOMAN

The first section will tell you what you already know but do not want to face.

The second section will stop you asking yourself senseless questions.

The third question will make you think.

The forth section will reveal light bulb moments.

The fifth section will make you smile. 

I hope this book will help you find love. I hope this book will inspire you to love yourself and to accept no less than the best. We should not settle in love.  So many things in life are mediocre - love should not be one of them.  If you seek passion and comfort, warmth and security - dive in and read this book.

Want to end your struggle with food?

What is the difference between those who have a weight issue and those who don't?

Metabolism?

Love of food?

Big bones?

No...

These can contribute but the real issue - and everyone knows this -

Tis the way you think about food.

What do you think about the picture above?

Beautiful, healthy, delicious, nutritious food?

Would you rather eat this for lunch than a sandwich, packet of crisps, cake, biscuit, soda, chocolate bar, ice cream?

If not you can change the way you think about food.

If you do not think it is possible to prefer the above food to a magnum bar then work is needed on your beliefs.

What if you came to dislike cakes and ice cream?

Imagine that you only eat when your body needs re fuelling and you give your body the best nutrition there is. Imagine that that is the reason you eat.

Imagine no longer thinking about food - relegate it to the realms of toothpaste - it is there is assist your body not fill a void.

People who eat to feel good, who eat to satisfy a craving - be it for sugar, carbs, people who keep eating until they feel uncomfortable - all need to re frame how they think about food.

It is possible - it is fulfilling and it is life changing.

Lots of people are trapped in a prison by food. They spend so much time thinking about losing weight, how fat they are and then they eat a chocolate bar to feel good.  Worse are the "foodies", the gourmet chefs, who prepare feasts and delude themselves that they are superior because of their higher knowledge and appreciation of cooking. 

It is possible to feel sick at the sweet taste of a Magnum.

It is possible to feel full after eating a banana.

It is possible to never have indigestion, constipation, heartburn and all the other physical discomforts that come with overeating.

It is possible to only drink water and love it.

It is possible to love yourself and your body.

How far do you want to go with this?

Do you want to feel exuberant or just a bit better about your body and the way you look?

Maybe you just want to stop hating yourself?

I believe that everyone can be the best version of themselves and feel great.  The starting point is compassion - not just from folks like me but from yourself.  Forgive yourself. You deserve to be great, happy, thrive, and be a vessel for love.  The starting point is to love yourself. 

It takes work but it is possible and it is soo worth it...



 

Looking for true love?

Are you looking for true love?

Probably not because if you were you would have found it. Tis true. Do not react with anger instead reflect.

If you believe that you are looking for true love and it is not in your life then you need to look at what you are doing to block it.

What are your beliefs?

Do you like men? Think they are all bastards? Think they are all players? Think they are only after sex?

Maybe that is the truth of your experience. If so why are you drawing such unsuitable types into your life?

What do you present to the world?

Is love only for beautiful girls like the bride above? Are you not worthy of love? Are you scared of being vulnerable? Are you protecting yourself from pain? Do you believe love is only for fairy tales?

Are you a princess? Do you believe men should worship and adore you? Do you think a relationship is all about getting your needs met?

Would you date you?

Here's a possible scenario:

You date a guy for 5 years.  He is good looking, successful, clever, fun, the sex is great and you keep hoping for more. You want children but he does not. You may even live together. You put your life on hold to suit him. You pass 40 and can no longer have children. He then dumps you and marries a younger version 6 months later and has 2 children within 2 years.

What a bastard? No. What an idiot you are. If you want something and you do not have it in a relationship - end the relationship - sooner rather than later - It will not improve.

Here's another scenario:

You date a guy for 2 years. You split. Six months later you are having regular sex. That is all. You cannot resist. You hope you will get back together.  You won't. You are saving him the costs of a prostitute or the risk of STI if he picks up strangers in bars.

What a user? No. What an idiot you are.

There are lots more possible scenarios of women not finding true love. What runs through them all?  The way the women allow other people to mistreat them - respect begins with self respect.

Lose that and you lose everything.

What do you need to do to fix it? It is a four step process - painful but you can have an ice cream to help you work through it if you want.  The result - happiness, self belief, freedom from anxiety and neediness and- If you want it- true love.

The importance of goals

If you are going to dream... You may aswell dream big... Donald Trump

Great advice.

What do you do with your dreams?

Set goals.

What do you do with your goals?

Action them.

What happens if you don't action them?  Life passes and your dreams fade...

How do you keep track? Write them down.

I had 7 goals in 2012  and I achieved 5 of them.

What happened to the 2 I did not action?

I got diverted.

Are they still on my goals for 2014?

One is and one is not.

The one that is still there needs to be reviewed - is this something I really want to do or not -because I am not making time for it?

So is it OK to change your goals?

Yes but what about your dreams?

It is better to change them than let them fade and die.

You know if you  are living your dream by how happy you are.

Are you in flow?
Does life work for you?
Do you complain a lot?
Do you feel restless and under utilized?
Bored even?

Why do people not live their dreams?

FEAR

Fear of change
fear of failure
Fear of success
fear of the unknown
fear of rejection
Fear, fear, fear - how boring is that?

What about you? What do you want? Who do you want to be? Who do you want in your life? Where do you want to live? How do you want to earn money?

IF YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT YOU WILL END UP LIVING SOMEONE ELSE'S DREAM

It can be easy to work it out. Give yourself some time and space. Ask the 2 obvious questions:
If money was no obstacle what would I do?

If talent was no obstacle and I could be anyone I want what would I do?

If the pleasure zone does not work try the panic mode.

If you lost everything - house, job, friends - everything and you had to start again what would you do?

Not bad enough?
How about-
If you woke up naked in a rice field in China what would you do? 

Still stuck? I can help you work out what you want and how to get there.
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Men's Hot and Crazy List for Women

This video is funny - do not take offence . It gives an insight into how a lot of men select women - not how women truly are.

Men prefer a good looking woman who is emotionally stable. They do not seek drama and emotional outpourings.  They are very visually stimulated so given this is how they are wired biologically we must stop lamenting their superficiality. They also do not like to spend time focusing on where they are at emotionally. They would like to just enjoy and not spend a lot of time analyzing their feelings. However - they miss the point that it can often be their behavior which ignites the emotional drama. How many times have you seen a man fall apart emotionally when the woman he loves leaves him? They can express they just choose not to.

Women do the same thing but list men on hot and money. I would give him 3 for hot.. any women above a 5 on the hot list who dates him must think he scores above an 8 for money..

Here's the thing - 80% of women are hot and only 20% of men - Paretto's rule applies to this as well as everything else. Which is why soo many women end up with men for their money.  Then the men think the women have gone crazy... but they are not they are just expressing their disappointment.

All connections are a trade - who are we to judge others? It is rare indeed to have equality -Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie are both famous, rich and beautiful so this should be a fabulous match of like minded spirits but what else have they got a connection with? Hopefully everything.

My advice to women:

1. Forget about finding a man to make you happy.  He can't. Only you can make you happy.
2. Set boundaries - what behavior are you prepared to put up with?
3. Work out what you want from the connection.
4.  Work out what you need in your life right now.  If it is a loving committed relationship forget the players - if it is a fling - carry on!
5. What do you bring to the table? Where are you on the crazy hot list?

The Little Book of Love...

Coming soon...

Men to avoid

Does he love me?

Do you love yourself?

What is Love?

When a man loves a woman

Extracts from the book...

IF A MAN SAYS,

HE IS TOO BUSY,

 HE IS TOO SHY,

 IT IS TOO EARLY

TOO…

THESE ARE ALL EXCUSES INSTEAD OF SAYING…

I DON’T WANT ANYMORE THAN WE HAVE RIGHT NOW

IF YOU DATE A MAN WHO IS IN A RELATIONSHIP

 WITH SOMEONE ELSE

 DO NOT EXPECT HIM

 TO BE FAITHFUL TO YOU…

 EVER 

Some of the pain women go through in the name of love is so unnecessary. If you spend even one more minute waiting for a guy to call that is a minute of your precious life that you will never get back.

If you are looking for love then it is important to look in the right places. There are a lot of frogs out there - and it is OK to kiss a few frogs maybe, but don't take it any further than that.

If something does not add up then trust your intuition.  If he does not introduce you to his friends or family there is a reason he wants to keep you out of the rest of his life.  Do not listen to this " I value the time you and I spend together so much and I do not want to share you with anyone else".

True story - I know of a lady who dated a guy for 2 years, holidayed with him, introduced him to all her friends and family, spent New Year with him, and then found out - after 2 years - that he was still living with his wife. How devastating is that? Were there any clues? Plenty. If you ignore your intuition you are setting yourself up for pain and loss. Or as my gorgeous lorry driver cousin said to me when I told him I was breaking up with a guy whom he did not like:

"Give me his address and phone number and I will introduce him to a life of pain..." Fortunately such retribution was not necessary but do not put yourself in a situation where your male relatives need to come to your rescue.

 

The Trouble with Men...

A woman meets a man and what does she think?  Great he is just perfect the way he is... No...  she thinks...

If he got promoted...

If he watched less sport...

If he played less computer games...

If he got rid of his childish ways...

If he stopped eating like a pig...

If he liked shopping...

If he stopped gambling, smoking, drinking...

If, if, if...

Does she tell a guy this? NO WAY! She is too busy playing Stepford Wives. He thinks he's hooked up with a chick that loves action movies and his leery mates, is a gourmet chef and is wild in the bedroom.

Then he marries his dream woman...

Sadly she then turns into herself and starts working on him to change any or all of the above.  He needs to clean house, watch chick flicks, go on a diet, take her shopping, only have sex when there is a full moon and with the lights out or worse - when she is ovulating.

I almost feel sorry for men.

Here's what you can change about men -

1. Their location - you can probably get him to move house, especially if he is still living with his mum or in a shared lad's hovel, sorry pad.

2. Their look - you can buy him clothes and leave them outside the shower for him to grab and put on.

Here's what you can't change about men:

1. Everything else.

Why do women try to recycle men?  Because they have a fantasy Prince in their head and they are brought up on Disney and expect a man to solve all their problems. Lots of women don't like making decisions - they want a man to look after them but they want him to look after them in the way they want not the way he sees it.

When infatuation wears off, if you do not love a man the way he is - leave him and spare you both a lot of pain and aggravation.

WHAT IS THE SOLUTION?

Be honest with men and yourself. Stop trying to be someone you are not just to catch a man - I promise you he isn't worth it and you are worth so much more than that.  Do not make catching a man your goal - make being happy your goal.

Get happy on your own.  Take responsibility for your own life.  Only have a man in your life who makes you feel good. Only then will you have the space to give love.

Beware Internet Dating

Women in their quest for true love and that secure, happy, cocooned sharing try to take shortcuts. A quick fix, an easy solution and the answer to their prayers they hope comes along in the form of internet dating.

Beware, beware, beware.

True story:

I know of a guy whose profile states that he is a property developer - he worked out that women like entrepreneurs, property sounds richer than it is and he can appear successful. He states he is divorced, with 2 children, looking for a serious relationship.

He selects attractive women in their thirties. He builds their trust and then arranges to meet them - always on a Thursday night.  He takes them out for a drink near where they live, after 3 drinks takes them back to their home, has sex with them, leaves and never contacts them again.

In real life he is a bus driver who has never been married, has no children and is only looking for sex.  He does this every week and has never been turned down - why women fall for this is the subject of another post.

Remember that such sites are an exchange - even genuine guys are putting out their best story.

Everything in life takes time from baking a cake, to building a house so why would you imagine that finding true love should happen in the blink of an eye?

Yes, you can feel instant attraction. However, that could be infatuation not love.

Yes he may be an amazing guy - but it takes time to find out if he is the right guy to be your amazing guy.

If you do feel the urge to go internet dating here is my advice:

1. Goggle whoever you flirt with - check out their social media sites etc before you agree to meet them.
2. If you do have any mutual acquaintances - ask them for a reference - it is your personal safety we are talking about after all.
3.  Arrange to meet them - do not let them pick you up - for a coffee in a public place. Tell someone where you are and ask them to call you 30 minutes into the date - this is to check you are safe and give you an easy escape if you want one.
4. Ask for their business card if you agree to see them again - property developers have one, bus drivers don't - although it is cheap to produce fake cards you can check out company registration etc.

Remember - there are a lot of toads out there disguised as frogs disguised as princes.... keep yourself safe and take time to be selective... you are the prize after all.

Let's Talk about Life

What does your life look like? Is it in perfect harmony like the picture above? If you look deep into the beauty of nature you can feel engulfed by its serene calm - everything unfolds as it should. The beauty is breathtaking.

If you are in a bad place emotionally right now the best thing you can do is move your body and go visit nature - a forest, nature trail, river - anywhere where you can see nature's abundance and striking beauty. Get your boots on and get walking. Nancy Sinatra said it right but she should have been walking in nature in the video!  It is breathtaking if you only take the time to look. This will change your state. I promise it is soo much better then lying on the couch eating a giant bar of galaxy and watching a tear jerker.

Do you know where you are and where you are going?

Are you happy with the way it is unfolding?  Are you steering your ship or are you a passenger in your own life?

Here's a few signposts.

Who do you love?
How much time do you spend with the people you love?
Who do you dislike?
How much time do you spend with these people?
Do you love your job?
Do you love your social life?
Do you love your Spiritual Life?
Do you love your body?
Do you love yourself?
Do you love your hobbies?
Do you love your family?
Do you love what you are learning?

What do you give back?
To those you love?
To your community?
To the world?

How much time do you spend learning new things?
How much time to do spend exploring?
How much time do you spend thinking about the future?
How much time  do spend thinking about the past?
Regretting the past?
Rewriting the past?
Re living the past?
Avoiding the past?

Thing of your life as a wheel with 8 spokes - each represents an important part of your life.  If you only focus on one or two then the wheel won't turn and your life will not flow. In the end it results in breakdown - burn out - mid life crisis - financial ruin - divorce - loneliness - there are many different
traumatic outcomes. These are  signposts - you need to adjust and re balance.

It is possible.  It is possible to be happy, free, fulfilled and to feel blessed. Spending time with nature is a start. Focusing on you and looking inwards is the next step.  Do not expect to do everything alone.  There is lots of help out there. Change can happen very quickly when you decide and commit to it.

How about now? Decide and take the first step... 

Let's Talk about Money

What do you think about money?

Do you enjoy spending it? Are you scared you will run out of it? Do you need to save it and refuse to spend it? Do you deny yourself luxuries but have lots of money in the bank? Or are you a spendaholic? Do you max out your credit cards and avoid answering your phone in case it is a debt collector? Do you have clothes you haven't even worn? Have you lost track of your spending? Do you have a budget? Do you stick to it? Do you compare yourself to others? Do you think it is easier for men to make money?  Do you like money? Do you think it is base? Do you think people who chase money are greedy?

How much money are you worth?

How much money do you want?

How much money do you need?


Your answer to the above 3 questions is very telling and will help me work through your blocks.

How about this one:

Do the poor deserve to be poor? or

Are they exploited by the rich? Which leads to

Do the rich deserve to be rich?

Your beliefs about money affect everything you do in the realm of finance.

We have all heard of lottery winners who receive millions and then less than 10 years after have nothing left. Or, lottery winners who carry on with the day job and leave the money in the bank.

Interestingly a lot of people, if they are asked what they would do if the genie was before them and gave them their dream would only upgrade their life a little - pay off their mortgage, buy a slightly better car, go on an extra holiday.

What about you? What can that genie give you? What is your heart's desire?

What are the three hardest things to do in Life?

Let's Talk About One Night Stands

A one night stand can be an amazing experience if you both want the same thing - a fantastic, exciting night to remember and if the chemistry is right and there is enormous sexual attraction and a connection. Every detail will be imprinted in your mind forever and it will be up there with your top ten life experiences. Anyone who has had one of these knows what I am talking about and it will make a great tale one day when you are sitting around in an old people's home waiting for your carer to take you to the loo.

Sadly most one night stands are not like this and leave both parties feeling bad - the girl because she hopes it will turn into a relationship and the guy because he wants to escape as soon as possible but feels a bit guilty looking into her forlorn, pleading eyes. 

Do women learn their lesson? Do they wake up after the first failure of a one night stand and vow - never again? No they do not.  They keep doing the same thing and keep getting the same result - then they wonder why they can't meet a decent guy and have a loving, committed relationship.

Sometimes they give up on love. they close themselves down and avoid men completely and vow that they don't need or want a man in their life.

Why on earth do women do this to themselves? Because they are looking for love in all the wrong places. Because they mistake sexual attraction for love. Because they mistake infatuation for love. Because they are needy. Because they are lonely.

Enough. We all need to get our hankies out.  Not because you are lonely and needy but because you cannot see what is right in front of your nose and the tragedy of wasting your amazing life on such losers - and let's face it - guys who use women for sex are losers - if they are that desperate they can hook up with a prostitute.

Where is this love?  Inside.  Want to wake up every day with an excited feeling like a child at Christmas?  Want to end your dependency on attention from unsuitable men? Want to feel fabulous?

I can help you with this.

Let's Talk about Men

Do you have a man in your life who completes you and makes you happy?

Or does he let you down - treat you badly and you feel anxious and lonely? Do you fear you will lose him? Do you pretend to be someone you are not to keep him? Do you suppress your emotions? Act nice when you feel angry? Say nothing's wrong when there is? Call him in tears asking why he has not called you?

If any of these apply you are giving away your power. You are placing your happiness in the hands of a man and you are being needy. What a sad place to be - the more needy you become the more you will push him away.

Here is the deal. Only you can make you happy.  If a man is in your life he should make it better not worse. If he does not keep to his word and treat you right - say goodbye and thank the Lord that you did not waste anymore of your precious time on this earth with such a character. Do not lament the loss and imagine you were in love with him. You were looking for someone else to make you feel good and that is not their role.

Here's the sweetener on the deal. Only you can make you feel good.  Once you appreciate how fabulous you are and how wonderful life is you will attract emotionally available men who want to make you happy. It is that simple.

It is not easy but it is simple.

If you want to wake up every morning feeling great and relishing the day ahead whether there is a man in your life or not then call me.

If you need to kick out a love rat then call me now!

If you think you are capable of having a loving relationship then you are capable of sorting this. Call me and I will show you how.

Let's Talk About Food

Lots of women have a problem with food.

Why is that?  Do you know what your relationship with food is all about?  Is it fuel and nourishment for your body or is it something entirely different?  Dare I say that you eat to feel better and then you feel worse.  Then your self critic takes over and you eat to feel better and the whole vicious circle continues.

What do you think of your body?

Write down 5 good things about it.  I can think of 5 amazing things about able-bodied humans straight off:
You can see
You can hear
You can taste
You can feel
You can think

Have you ever considered how truly wonderful that is?  Have you ever felt grateful?. Your body is amazing. Do you think your amazing body that you are thankful for should be looked after? Do you treat this phenomenal thing that you have control of with respect?

Try This:

Don't take your body for granted.
Thank God, the universe, or random chance that you have control of such an amazing living mechanism.
Look at something in front of you - not the TV hopefully but really notice the colours.
Listen to something - your favourite song - the traffic - birds in the sunshine if you are really lucky.
Taste something - I suggest a lemon or a lime really notice the strong flavour
Feel something - a soft cushion or a marble work surface, close your eyes and sink into the sensation of touch.
Now think about the wind blowing a gentle sea breeze across your face and your bare toes sinking into the soft sand and taste the salt in the sea spray and see the sunlight dappling on the water. Fantastic that you can do that - almost as if it is real and happening right now.

Thank your body for being so amazing.
Commit to look after this wonderful phenomenon.
Perhaps you now feel less like eating junk food?
Perhaps you now want to care for and look after this wonderful treasure you have been given?
Perhaps you want to see, feel, hear, touch and think those marvellous sensations for as long as possible?

Just  a thought... but it's a start to changing an abusive relationship with food.

What's your problem?

Women frequently have issues with one of the following:

1. Money

2. Men

3. Weight

Often the core of these is self -belief - or lack of it.

What is this glass ceiling?

I have a friend who is very successful in the City. Years ago when she was a young 19 year old dealer one of the leery males approached her and asked if he could suck her tits.  Her response "F*** OFF MINI DICK!!!" She then had a clear run to the top - noone sexually harassed her again. Or maybe you would prefer to pursue a claim for millions via an employment tribunal? Does it feel good to be a victim? Would such money feel well earnt? Or well deserved - a constant reminder of your suffering and lack... lack of what... gumption? Courage? Ability to control your own life?

What if all the problems are on your side?

What if your perception is what creates your issues?

You can change your perception so this could offer a solution.

But are you comfortable with your problems?

Do you want to earn money? If so - how much are you worth? Everyone knows their own figure in their head, they just need to uncover it. Do you secretly wish you were worth more? Are you angry at people you believe are worth more than you? Or do you not care? Or pretend to not care?

Why do you eat? Have you actually worked this out?

And what of men? WHY DO YOU WANT ONE OF THOSE? Or maybe you don't maybe they are more trouble than they are worth. Being single is great as long as you love yourself. Being in a relationship is great - as long as you love yourself.

Do you - love yourself? If not I can help you uncover why not and change things for the better forever...

WHAT DO YOU WANT?

Do you know?

If so great go get it!

If not. Why not? Is that not the key to happiness? The key to life in fact. If you don't know where you want to be you can't get there.  If you don't know what you want you won't recognize it even if you have it. Ever heard of people realizing after their lover left or died how much they loved them? It's like air and water - you take it for granted.

So grab a pen. Don't know where to start?

Here's a great start.

Imagine that time, money and ability were no object.  The genie was before you. You could have and do anything you wanted. What would you do? I was at a Paul McKenna show and he asked that very question and the lady he picked replied "I would clean my house". Really? If I was Paul McKenna I would have sent a team of cleaners to her house and then asked her " Now what do you want?". He would have removed her blocker to happiness and then help her work out what she really wanted.

That is what I help you do. Remove your blocker to happiness and help you get what you really want.