What Kind of Man Do You Like?

Have you decided?

You want a man in your life.  Is that it? Just any man? Of course not.

How about you make a list of what exactly you are looking for?

Bet it won't say married man.  How come so many women end up dating them? I saw The Other Woman recently starring Cameron Diaz and the film variously annoyed and entertained me. He was such a cad but he only managed to get away with it because the women were soo stupid.

So, a start would be list of deal breakers.  For many women it is a minimum height - strange that even the most petite among us can be heightist against men - but that is a bit like tubby men rejecting chubby women - there is no logic to it.

OK, so provided your deal breaker list is not so long that you decide to give up on an impossible task, the next list is what you are looking for. This should not be a chore it should be a pleasure - to write about your dream man. If you can't be bothered what does that say - maybe you don't want a man in your life?

What is the point of doing this? It narrows the field. There are billions of men out there. If you don't focus you will get lost in the crowd. Imagine a herd of zebras. You have to pick one. How will you do it?

How women normally date is they are responsive to the men who approach them. Not only does this take the choice right out of your hands but you could become prey to the players - they are more likely to ask women out, the ones who only want sex so any gal will do, the over confident ones and the ones who have asked you out for a bet (It does happen!).

I have read a few dating help guides and they are a nightmare.  They are telling women to act in a certain way, look a certain way (although they all state looks do not matter) have sex at a certain time, don't be needy, be fun, be mysterious, be strong, be confident.

Here is my advice. Just be. If a man does not like you as you are then you need to find out as quickly as possible otherwise you are wasting your precious life on a wrong un - wrong for you that is.

Next focus on what you like. I hate football so I will not be going to a football match. I hate golf. Not keen on tennis. Hate fishing. Get my drift. So many women abandon their interests and follow a man. Do you know what will happen?  You will get bored. Then you will go off him and blame him for being boring.

I love shopping - so no Amish for me. What do you like to do with your time? Write it down. If you meet a guy and you have no overlapping interests then you are going to have to spend a lot of time in bed which is great but you may miss shopping.

Finally there is only one essential element for true love - fantastic chemistry. Strangely, I have never felt this for a guy who loves fishing. If you feel it - follow it.